Thursday, October 28, 2010
Proper Playground Etiquette
On occasion I have also found that the older children she's so fond of, also tend to be a bit controlling, sometimes even bully-ish. That has been challenging for the both of us. She gets confused and doesn't understand why someone is being mean and I get hurt and wonder what I should be teaching my baby. One day a little boy took her stuffed animal ( it goes everywhere she goes) and held it hostage. When she came to me, I told her to say please and ask for it back. When that didn't work, I went to get it from him myself. He proceeded to hurl her little toy up into the air and across the park. My daughter was in tears and I wanted to shove that little snot into the ground...but I can't teach my kid that. Thankfully, his mother was right there and once aware of the situation, handled it immediately. But, what do I do in the future? What if the next bully has a mom who is completely oblivious? What if the next time, I'm not even there and she's at preschool? I want to teach her to be strong and to defend herself, but how do I do that without turning her into a bully as well? For now I guess I will settle for working on her communication skills. If talking to the bully doesn't work, at least she can come and talk to me or a teacher and then it will be up to a grown up to handle things...and if need be - shove someone into the ground.